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I have been in my field of forensics and mental health for over 30 years. Some of my experience was as a Sexual Assault Advocate, Domestic Violence & Anger Management Group Facilitator, Crisis Therapist, Clinical Liaison for a Regional Behavioral Health Authority (RBHA) for the Seriously Mentally Ill (SMI) adult population, a Forensic Mental Health Professional (FMHP) in jails and prisons, and have been a supervisor of over a dozen trauma therapists for 10+ years. I am only telling you this bit of bio information so you can feel confident that I am qualified to tell it like it is. You see, one thing I witnessed consistently was how using insurance to pay for mental health treatment screws the client over in many ways. Therefore I decided to write this blog and, although it is more of an article than a blog post, I am confident you will agree that sharing this knowledge is much more important than length.
However, I am not only writing it to share with you – my blog readers – but also to help educate my agency’s prospective private CG clients who often ask “Why don’t you accept insurance?”
The SHORT answer is “BECAUSE I CARE”.
The LONG technical, “let-me-count-the-reasons” answer is below…
In order for anyone to use their insurance for mental health treatment (or get reimbursed), the therapist is required to diagnose (“label”) them. Why is that an issue? Because most people do not want their “label” to be part of their permanent, official records which follows them everywhere.
CASE: I remember Lora, a 27-year-old Caucasian female who, within a 3-week time-frame was laid-off from her job of 12 years, her car was repossessed, her husband had an affair and moved out, and she lost her home in the 2008 housing crash. In addition she was now facing a divorce and trying to raise a set of 3-year-old twins on her own. When she came into the county’s mental health clinic with an emotional breakdown, she was depressed, her anxiety was uncontrollable, she gave temporary custody of her children to her mother, and she was having suicidal thoughts.
Her employer-paid insurance was still active until the end of the month and, because she had insurance, Jerry (the therapist), “labeled” her Bi-Polar with Adjustment Disorder just so he could bill her insurance (get paid).
While Jerry was doing what he was supposed to do, I personally had an issue with this and ethically disagreed with the process. I mean, who wouldn’t have a breakdown and act “bi-polar” with all that hitting our life at once? Who wouldn’t have a difficult time “adjusting” to all of that?
When the dust settled, and she was reemployed, worked it out with her husband, found a great apartment, and obtained the gift of a car from her parents… she was “normal”. In fact, she had not presented with “bipolar” symptoms of any kind before or after that one instance. But, because it was now “officially” on her permanent record, every provider and insurance company (including life insurance) will be essentially told that she was diagnosed “Bipolar with adjustment disorder” and nobody can remove it.
For the rest of her life this label will follow her everywhere which can affect her eligibility of many things… all because she had a shitty three weeks.
That brings me to…
Now let’s say you wish to use insurance to pay for mental health treatment… because your insurance company is paying for it, they have a legal right to look in your records whenever they want to.
That means any representative of the insurance company will be able to see all of your private information – the traumas, the emotions, the “skeletons in the closet”, and more. In other words, if the insurance company tells the receptionist to audit your file, that $10 / hour receptionist has access to it all. Let’s hope it doesn’t become the topic of her Facebook page.
Then let’s not forget about the others involved in this process… when Jerry submitted Lora’s documentation to the insurance company, others saw the nitty-gritty details too, such as the mail clerk who opens and disperses to the appropriate department, the case manager, the processor, the peer reviewers, the customer service reps, and, if not disposed of properly (and many aren’t), even the cleaning people. In other words, HIPAA does not totally keep your information confidential.
Also, if you ever have to go court like Lora did… divorce, custody hearings, or as a witness, the “legal beagles” have a right to request all of your records and especially mental health records… and they will. Finally, there is not typically a statute of limitations on mental health diagnoses so, once entered into the Medical Information Bureau (MIB) and other systems, it becomes a “pre-existing illness”. My husband sells life insurance, and has for over 20 years. He has seen many people get turned down for situations like Lora’s… even for small policies.
CASE: let me tell you about one of my husband’s most recent clients, Moses. Moses had sought coverage from his Employer Assistance Program (EAP) because his child, age 14, had committed suicide. He was clearly and understandably troubled with grief and yet the insurance company labeled him with “Generalized Anxiety Disorder” and because it was not one of the “covered services” (not a drastic or severe enough label), they would not cover it. Instead, he was slapped with the rejected EAP bill of over $15,000 and a collection agency from hell who was making his life miserable. In fact, one collection agent even told him to pawn his wedding ring to make a payment to them!
Yet still, the label / diagnosis was placed in his permanent record and listed in the MIB, which then caused him to be turned him down for life insurance. BTW – in case you are unaware, everyone who has ever gone to any doctor has a file in the Medical Information Bureau.
That brings me to…
* Even if your therapist highly recommends a 6-month program and you agree… if the insurance company representative (yes, even the receptionist) decides you only need a 2-month program, that is all you will get… unless you pay out of pocket. The only hope here is that the insurance company can be convinced that the 6-month program is medically -necessary (unfortunately that usually takes a small miracle or act of Congress to do).
That brings me to…
Even if the insurance company approves the 6-month regimen, they will rarely pay the full amount and you will be surprise-attacked when the mailman delivers a multi-thousand dollar bill.
So… be prepared to fight for it because insurance companies have often told mental health clients that something is covered and then, after they receive the treatment, the insurance company denies it anyway. This can interrupt your treatment and impact your credit, bank account, stress levels, emotions, and much more, even undoing the very things you sought treatment for. So… what are your options or choices?
Pay cash for your sessions to assure that your records are completely confidential. You can then have the amount of treatment that is best for you and your future.
If you cannot afford your payments, there are agencies who offer sliding-fee scales and payment plans.
If you must use insurance, try to avoid in-network providers and, instead try to use a PPO so you can pre-pay and then get reimbursed, which will help just a little bit with confidentiality and the other points above. Again… just a little bit.
However, be advised that many insurance companies will not give you a choice when it comes to which therapist you choose. This has it’s separate drawbacks too such as compatibility, ability to trust and build rapport with your therapist, etc. I mean, ever met someone you instinctively-for-no-obvious-reason didn’t particularly like? That happens with therapists too. If you don’t jive with your therapist, the outcome of your treatment will be disappointing.
Added bonus for self-pay: many times paying out of pocket can be tax deductible.
From a professional viewpoint… most quality therapists rarely take insurance. Okay, I am not saying that there are NO good therapists or psychologists out there who do take insurance – there are. However, when comparing supply & demand, only those who are busy (which equates to successful in this case) will not accept insurance.
Why? Because with all the headache of paperwork, submitting billings, arguing with insurance companies on your behalf, filling out more paperwork, resubmitting billings, etc…. for an average of 7-10 extra hours per month behind the scenes perclient, this results in your therapist making minimum wage.
Typically only those who need the clients will sign up for all of that hassle, even though they know that doing so is usually not in their client’s best interest! Therapists who are not full of clients will be happy to jump through the red tape just to make some money and get their name out there. However, once they are busy, almost always they will stop accepting insurance.
How do I know? Because when I started out, that was me.
I needed the clients and was going to accept insurance. I was willing to stay up all day / night for a week to get all pre-client requirements done but...
That’s not all…
Many insurance companies will not accept new providers (therapists) and, even if they do, they rarely pay anything. The amount they do pay equals 40% of the total cost on average and again – to get that 40% payment, therapists have to spend 7 – 10 extra hours behind-the-scenes fighting for their money. That takes time away from serving clients (the very reason we went into the career field).
So hopefully you can see that insurance is beneficial for your cell phone, pets, physical health, your home and business, your car, and your life… but not so much for your mind.
One final piece of advice… creating any kind of change in your life requires a commitment.. an action step of some kind. When you pay for your own therapy out of pocket (action step), you are more committed to following-through because you have more to lose if you don’t.
This is a great way to hold yourself accountable.
Looking for evidence-based, home-based and powerful therapy (without meds, diagnosis, and testing) and with affordable cost and payment plan options?
If so, you are in the right place and can start right now.
In fact, even the famous psychiatrist Daniel Amen verifies why we have said since 1987 that “talk therapy” is not the way to life-changing transformation nor are “psych meds”…. watch his video below.
No matter what you decide, it is important to know the above so you can make an informed decision when it comes to your short-term and long-term mental health goals. Equally important is how using insurance for your therapy can affect you when you want to purchase items or receive services that are not related to mental health.
Please understand that other types of insurance is very valuable. In fact, if you are an employer who cares, or have loved ones you’d like to protect for future generations, my husband can help you with that.
Had a conversation today that reminded me of something…
WHEN LOOKING AT REVIEWS ONLINE (ie: Rip0ff Report, Ye1p, etc.)… here are my professional words of advice.
I have been a licensed investigator in several states since the mid-1990s. As a result, many of my past clients were exceptional professionals who had been listed on Rip0ff Report, yet who have been wrongly accused and / or sabotaged.
AFTER HUNDREDS OF INVESTIGATIONS by my team, these were (and likely still are) the top 3 reasons people end up on Rip0ff Report & sites like it:
- unethical attempts by jealous competitors to indirectly steal their target’s clients or customers.
- disgruntled employees who were pissed off despite being fired because of their own incompetence.
- former patients who did NOT follow through on their own self-care yet chose to blame the doctor or therapist, saying their “program” or “advice” didn’t work.
- online trolls, haters, or cyberbullies
I’m sure we can both agree that we don’t have to look too far to see adults who do NOT take responsibility for their own actions. In fact, many choose to blame everyone else – from their parents and bullies in elementary school, to their EX, their Pastor, and even President Trump. After all, the jails and prisons are full of innocent people.
In addition, we can also both agree that many in our society try to complain to get “free” products or services. Many citizens in today’s society could be considered “vicious litigants” by court professionals. Just another manipulative tactic to get something for nothing.
Before we move on to how to voice your dissatisfaction with a business or individual professional, let’s do a quick RECAP. Most reports were completely unfounded or were a sick twist of what really occured in which – as expected – the sabateur was automatically the “victim” in their own story. In a nut shell, most were serious sabotage attempts by uncouth individuals who had an *agenda*.
(1)If you have a problem with a company, organization, or professional, first try to deal with them directly and privately. I personally feel leaving a bad review is unfair when used to vent because it’s human nature to pretty much never share what YOU did to mess things up… screw-ups take 2.
I’m sorry to break this to you but if you have a problem with someone in your personal or professional life, it is highly unlikely that you are 100% innocent in the matter so have some integrity.
Besides, posting or ranting “uglies” anonymously online is a cop-out… just another way to “hide behind the internet”. Interacting with someone face-to-face is perhaps considered primitive to some, but still powerful nevertheless. If the tables were turned, would YOU want the chance to work it out privately with your customer / client OR would you rather they ran like a spoiled toddler and tattled online in an emotional hissy fit? (more on this in a bit)
(2) It is always best to make your own decisions when interacting with professionals you are considering doing business with, and not depend on someone else’s opinions. Since many postings online are actually submitted by fake names or completely anonymous, why would you depend on the opinions of complete strangers? If they are too ashamed to reveal themselves, what does that say about them?
(3) And, as for Rip0ff Report specifically, let’s not forget that the man who put this website up has been sued repeatedly, and he’s using a tiny loophole in the federal law that allows him to never have to verify if any of its true, and he also never has to take any of it down. So what you put on there about someone, or what someone puts on there about you… will be there forever. However, what this site owner did was to create a service in which the sabotaged person or company could pay LOTS of $$$ in which he “MAY” remove the unfavorable comments. In other words, that website is a huge moneymaker for him so he doesn’t care what anybody says about anybody else. As for character… that speaks volumes about the site owner’s ethics and self-serving agenda. I could tell you something similar about Ye1p.
(4)When deciding whether or not to work with another professional in any capacity and you see a unfavorable review, TELL THEM UP-FRONT. Society is becoming so weak that they are afraid to speak! I personally recommend letting these professionals know on the first phone call or email that you saw the bad review online BUT add that you want to give them the opportunity to be heard. Most ethical professionals would appreciate the opportunity to talk about it. If it was YOU who was talked about badly online and possibly losing business, wouldn’t you want the opportunity to that as well? In addition, it shows the other professional that YOU ARE NOT one to just fall into the status quo and that YOU ARE CAPABLE of forming your own educated and objective opinions.
** What I personally do is set up a time to interview THEM in person or on video ** because when I tell them face-to-face about the review I saw about them, I am able to tell more through their non-verbal reaction than what their words could actually reveal. IF I still wish to work with them, as a formality, I will then ask for references. Realizing that about 50% may be friends or family, I contact them anyway.
However, absolutely NOTHING is a stronger indicator of truth than your own instincts. So much of society has become lazy and in a hurry that they no longer use their own instincts… instead they choose to believe what’s online… and yes, even posts by complete strangers!
Somewhere along the so-called advancement of our supposed *enlightened* society, we have opted-out of doing our part of the work. Yes, doing the above takes a little bit longer. However, doing the work also helps build YOUR own character and shows that you are a fair, objective, and credible professional too, not one who “goes with the flow” because it’s the easy way. PLEASE don’t be one of the lazy members of society, there are far too many already.
As promised earlier from (1) above…
QUESTION: is it ever OKAY to post a BAD REVIEW?
ANSWER: YES, and this is how I do it…
- If I do choose to leave a review online, I only do so after THREE attempts to privately work it out with the person / organization. I leave a few days between each attempt to allow them time to respond. This takes about 10 – 14 days total.
- If I do not have about 10 – 14 days to wait for resolution, I always wait until EXACTLY 11 hours after the incident occurred before writing the review. There is a very powerful forensically-scientific reason behind the 11th hour that I posted about before on my Facebook page.
Whichever option I choose, if they refuse to work it out, discuss it, or are total jerks, then I will leave my review but I only do so with objective FACTS and do not include any subjective emotions or opinions. Think in terms of the “who, what, why, where, and how” of journalism.
THEN… before I hit “post” or “submit” I always ask myself:
“If I had to go to court and prove what I just wrote, could I?”
If any part (no matter how miniscule it may seem) of my review says, “No”, I immediately reword it. It’s only ethical to do so.
PARTING WORDS TO THE WISE: remember, just as you are trying to be “stealthy” online, so are others. Take 5 minutes to look at the social media timeline or a news website and you will see that people are probably more psychologically unstable than ever before, or perhaps just as much as before but with more easy access to you, your loved ones, and they can easily show up where you work or live. In other words, you never know who you are truly messing with on the other side of the WWW.
Choosing to belittle, post rants and harrass people with “uglies” is exactly that – a choice. If you choose to always remain in integrity while being objectively and respectfully honest, you will likely sleep better at night, and remain safe from “society’s psychos”.
To avoid my 1st Amendment rights being squashed again on Facebook, I figured I’d jump over here to WordPress and hope that it stays. You see, just yesterday someone “flagged” several of my posts on Facebook as being “inappropriate”. I call them REAL LIFE. But, instead of getting irritated, I said, “That’s okay. Let me sum them ALL up for you….”, so I did.
That summary is below
I am often beyond saddened & disgusted over the state of our society, here in the USA and across the world. Many could argue that the cruel, insensitive, unkind, murderous, savage-minded people deserve what they have coming to them (karma?), however most people I know would agree that animals really never deserve the way they are treated. Is it just me or does China lead the world in cruelty to animals and people? Or is are all Asian countries ruthlessly heartless?
To my sensitive readers… this post is 100% MY personal opinion. If you don’t like it, don’t bother to comment because I really don’t care if you like my opinions or not. Bottom line is that I may have a lot of people remove themselves from my friends list, and that’s OK too. It’s one way to see who my true friends are, lol.
On the other hand, I may gain more followers since I am often told by others, “Wow, you have the courage to actually speak what I only think yet am too afraid to actually say”.
Whether you stay or go, if you don’t know why I have a strong opinion on these types of topics, you obviously don’t know me very well at all, so let me enlighten you in a nutshell…
Although I have forgiven everyone in my past, and haven’t been “triggered” in decades, that does not mean that I did not experience decades of trauma starting at birth (adoption), or that I was bullied so badly as a kid and had my first serious suicide attempt at age 9. Or that, when I was 11, I was almost gang raped and tied naked to a tombstone overnight. Then, throughout my childhood and teen years, I was abused in pretty much every way from those closest to me as well as peers, and sooo much more.
Then, as a young adult, I escaped a very abusive marriage, out-smarted a hired gun, and raised my two kids alone while running from a 10-year stalker who was also a convicted child predator. This predator also posed as a cop and followed me & my kids to several states.
Even with two Master’s degrees and a doctorate, I was then reverse-discriminated against and completely blackballed from working in mainstream mental health throughout Maricopa County where I live because (quote), “Your ethics are just too strong” (WHAT?!). Plus people who interview me usually have much less education and experience and one has even told me that she wouldn’t hire me because I should be her supervisor. Apparently brains intimidate many people! I could go on and on about that, and bring forth others treated the exact same way by the exact same agencies but that serves no purpose than to chain myself to the past.
On the flipside, I always preferred paramilitary settings and despite the black-balling in the mental health “gen pop”, I was able to consistently work in jails and prisons as a Forensic Mental Health Professional and currently work in a maximum security men’s prison. So, as an international forensic handwriting and body language expert, I have spent over 30 years total in the forensics and criminology fields.
Although I was not a “people person” per se, I have always felt absolute empathy for anyone who has experienced any kind of trauma as a child or adult. That’s why I have been passionate for my entire life about helping others heal and find light in their darkest moments. Of course, I can’t take all the credit – I had enormous assistance from God, the individual’s own spirituality, and my Clinical Graphology program.
Yet during my 30+ years in forensics, I also experienced and saw things that most of the public has only seen on TV or in movies. In other words, I have seen the RAW TRUTH of the unbelievable, pure unimaginable and beyond-incomprehensible things people have done – and continue to do – to animals and each other. Often this is done so in the name of ego, politics, greed, religion, money, “bad genes”, and just plain selfishness.
I also feel that a LOT of the problems in our world started with music that is full of disrespectful (& often gruesome) lyrics, violent video games, drugs, the wimpy schools who look the other way when those who are bullied seek help, the mental health system full of coddling social workers who allow the mentally ill person to blame everyone else for their unhappiness (I am talking about those who abuse the systems, not those who truly seek help), and other “community” programs who allow people to be enabled by disability / food stamps / unemployment. ADD TO THAT… the DUMMYING DOWN (allowing kids with a 4th grade reading level to graduate!) in public schools (Carlos Mencia has it 100% correct), and the criminal justice system who often slaps people on the wrists without ever truly holding them accountable. ADD TO THAT…those professionals we were once able to trust – like that of police, teachers, clergy – who are now raping our youth, beating their spouse, and in other ways hiding behind the badge. This makes it difficult for GOOD, ETHICAL professionals to survive (could this be related to the once-again, recent upswing in law enforcement officer suicides?).
ADD TO THAT… the parents who have stopped parenting as soon as kids threatened to call “child protective services” whenever they did try to parent… and then those seeming “deaf, dumb and blind” parents / grandparents who truly believe “my kid would never do that”…
ADD TO THAT… we seem to be regressing back into the “racial segregation”, yet we are all of mixed ethnicities and every female alive has African DNA (which means so does everyone else since a woman gave birth to them). ADD TO THAT… people can no longer look inside of their pants and tell what gender they are, and ADD TO THAT… the recent upswing of Christian villagers who are being killed and their Churches and Bibles destroyed.
ADD TO THAT… a selfish younger generation who often seem to have ZERO ethics, integrity, or respect for older generations or authority. ADD TO THAT… customer service where I rarely get quality service anywhere, meaning that most food is not the way I ordered, representatives on the phone and in person are rude, etc…. and ADD TO THAT… the fact that when KIDS / TEENS kill animals they are “future serial killers”, yet when ADULTS kill animals, they are “sportsmen”. Yes, I too am a sometimes meat-eater and I struggle with this a lot (so to help, I thank the animals during prayer for giving its life to help sustain mine). I understand the “over-population” of wild animals, but we can end an animal’s life humanely, and that is largely not being done!!
ADD TO THAT… sports professionals (ie: NFL) get paid ridiculous amounts of money to throw balls around and run across fake grass, while people literally living down the street from them are starving to death. I feel sports are just one of the many distractions to keep us all “ignorant”. ADD TO THAT… that we are all victims in some way of “repression” (use of force to subdue something or someone), “oppression” (a prolonged period of maltreatment), and “suppression” (putting a stop to something like standing up and speaking about these things).
Anyway… admittedly, none of us are perfect but as you know… THE LIST GOES ON & ON…
And YES, I know much of this cruelty occurred since the beginning of time and has only been outed by the internet, news, and social media.
However I’m glad they are…
People used to say to me, “I don’t understand why you don’t trust people”.
So I am glad that the truth is finally out here and in our faces. Because hiding behind all “fluffy” posts is not real, it’s not genuine. So, I vote for NO MORE blind ignorance because ignorance is not bliss. Ignorance allows the things we hate to continue.
It is anger, irritation, and frustration combined with passion that create change.
So, is it really so difficult to see why I feel so passionately about these things?
I’ve always considered myself very apolitical but now, after rereading this I’m beginning to think I should run for politics, lol. Then again, because of my satirical and often blunt comments, and strong personality, I’d probably be killed by my opponent or POTUS, lol.
Finally, as for Facebook – I hate it and always have. If I could figure out viable options (and I have tried several times) other than Facebook for the only 2 reasons I am on there, I would not be on there at all. So until Facebook is wiped out like MySpace was (which I hope is very soon!), I’m stuck there.
Here is something I found online that someone I do not know shared on July 11th…
In your opinion, do comments like this help or hurt society? Are they true or offensive? Are we losing control as a society? I’d really like to know your thoughts.
Some mental health professionals claim Reunification Therapy provides hope to family members, while other mental health professionals claim it creates hell for the child and sometimes even the custodial parent.
In addition, some mental health professionals claim Reunification Therapy is not real therapy, while family courts tend to be strong advocates for it.
In this episode, Mozelle Martin interviews Kelly Townsend, owner of Lien & Bond Investigations in the Phoenix, Arizona area and Dana Hoffman, a Cyber Intelligence Researcher who lives in Idaho. Together they discuss a current case they are working on, and how the process of rebuilding can provide hope to the family… or not.
We will also discuss the roles courts may play in putting children at more risk for revictimization.
What do YOU think? Does Reunification Therapy offer victims hope or does it sentence them to hell-in-the-home?
Click “play” to listen to the episode…
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This morning I was reading a post that discussed gender identity. Last week I was filling out a government form that asked my gender. My choices were “male”, “female”, and “other”.
I guess I’m concerned and a bit confused…
Since 99.93% of humans have XX or XY chromosomes, I highly doubt anyone’s birth certificate says the baby’s gender is “other”. So, when did members of society stop being able to look into their own underwear and see their gender? Don’t want to look? Feel!
Either way, how can someone NOT know their gender?
I do understand identifying with a gender different than one’s own. For example, I was born a female but I’ve always been a “Tomboy” — I liked to play rough, I liked to play in the mud, and I’ve never been a giggly, pouty-lip-photos, baby-talk, dress-up, tons of make-up, over-emotional girl / woman. I have spent 30 years in a male-dominated, paramilitary, forensic field as well and for my entire life, 99% of my friends have been men. BUT I still know my gender is female and I’ve never questioned or doubted that.
In addition, many men are heterosexual yet still very feminine. Cool, rock your genuine self. But our genuine selves were born male or female; we were not born other. Now we are told that referring to someone as “it” is disrespectful but you can use “they”. From a mental health standpoint, unless someone has a multiple personality disorder, they are not a “they”.
Yes, I do understand how both men and women have been forced into gender roles… women stay “barefoot & pregnant” while men “bring home the bacon”. We also tend to live in a “blame the victim” (usually women) society… such as “oh she was raped? well look what she was wearing”, or “she should not have led him on or been walking in that area alone at night”. I also feel this is complete and ignorant bullshit.
BUT… like many other historical facts, these things were accepted by society back then and – even as sad, maddening, or disgusting one may feel about them – they were (and many still are) signs of the times.
We do not force change by succumbing to it. We do force change by not allowing ourselves to be society’s victims, not by making society more stupid than it already is and then rewarding the stupidity!
Why not stop wearing dresses and high heels if we don’t want to? Why not stop wearing make-up if we don’t want to? Why not stop fixing things around the house if we don’t want to? Stop becoming parents if you don’t want kids.
In other words, accept your gender, but stop giving in to the role-expectations of society.
What if our many historical figures such as Martin Luther Kingor Mother Teresa tried to say they did not know if they were “male” or “female” or they gave in instead of being driven by passion? I seriously doubt anyone’s passion is to fall into gender roles and expectations… so simply stop doing it.
In other words, resist society’s ignorance but stay true to who you were born to be.
Yes, things change.. but science has not (much)!
As someone who has worked in the forensic mental health industry for over 30 years, according to the American Psychiatric Association, in the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders (DSM), *thinking* one is a gender other than what they were born as is known as “Gender Identity Disorder” (GID) — ICD-10 code # F64. When society forces GID into widespread acceptance, it is the same as promoting sociopathy (note both are “soci”).
This is not my opinion… this is SCIENTIFIC FACT.
Another scientific fact is that BRAINS are not fully developed until approximately age 26–27. So why are parents allowing their 8 or 10 year old child to say they are “bisexual” when these kids can barely wipe their own ass and probably can’t even spell the LBGQ…. words? They cannot vote, smoke, drink, or do anything else legally. They can’t budget, pay rent, or drive a car BUT somehow in a VERY immature and UNDER-developed mind, they can identify with something other than “male” or “female”?
I do NOT care where someone sticks their body parts (unless it’s illegal or someone is forcibly harmed) but schools and society are messed-up enough. Home should be full of safety and security — one that promotes a HEALTHY identity in the child(ren). I do not feel this is being done. We screwed up society decades ago when it became pretty much “illegal” to discipline our children. Parents stopped parenting and video games became caregivers. That’s when children / teens stopped having respect for well… anyone & everyone.
Now we name our kids things like “Atom Bomb”, and “Home Run”… and have allowed the birthing of a selfish generation that doesn’t want to do anything except accept handouts. We older generations were taught strong work ethic, respect, and how to think… most of those individuals in our “millennial” generation (especially those born after 1992) decide they will go to work when or if they want to, are overly-selfish, and can’t think their way out of a paper box without someone holding their hand. Schools have lowered their standards and sooooo much more.
When did society STOP giving a shit about how our short-term allowances cause often-severe long-term problems?
Facebook, which I loathe and have since day # 1, allows human trafficking groups from Russia, pornography groups from the U.K., animal abuse groups and posts from China, and a bunch of other illegal and disgusting pages BUT try to post a scientific fact such as the one I posted this morning (below), and it “violates their TOS”.
(I had to accept it or be locked out and put in “facebook jail” for 3 days. However, I did contact them with my real thoughts on this)
We have collectively created a whiny, wimpy society who proactively and aggressively seeks out shit to be offended about. Then they continue to whine because nobody understands them, all while making bullshit excuses for their unhappiness as they blame others.
What happened to “Life is tough – suck it up buttercup?” or “Pick your battles and move on”? Worked for millions of us before now!
I’m definitely not saying society was perfect in any of the decades or generations before us, nor will it ever be. However, those of us over 40 years old likely remember when logic, intelligence, integrity, and science was sought-after in job applicants and employees. After all, medical and technological advances are just some of the things we gained from smart people!
Today, the intelligent hard workers get passed over for jobs because they intimidate someone. People ask for honesty, then call you an asshole when you are honest. The criminal justice system is trying to hire a bunch of social workers to cuddle and hold hands with convicts (I have worked in prisons and jails for decades and still do, and this does not typically work!), and now social media posts containing scientific facts violate terms of service.
We readers over age 40 also remember when we respected the elderly, our parents, and authority figures even if we disagreed with them.
What’s next? We shall see.
Again, I’m concerned and somewhat confused about the world we live in. If it continues, will we swallow ourselves whole?
Maybe we should… sure seems like our world could use a major cleansing!